“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”- Mark Twain
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” – Wayne Gretzky
“If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no.’ If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.” – Nora Roberts
Here are two facets of the game you must accept:
This is the nature of the game. You cannot be “everything to everyone.” There is no such thing as a perfect internet dating profile page – one that will work on every woman, all of the time. If you don’t believe me, then go ahead and try to make one. Use some pictures from a guy who is extremely attractive. List your income as one million dollars a year and give yourself a Beverly Hills zip code. Now, do you think, with this profile, you can get a 100% conversion rate on the emails you send?
Nope.
You may indeed get a higher return. But my aim here is to convey to you that, even when all of the conditions are ideal, you will still strike out a lot. As of 2009, professional baseball player Ty Cobb still holds the record for highest career batting average of .367. That means that in his career, he failed to hit a baseball a whopping 63% of the times he was at plate.
People have eclectic tastes and desires. Our lives are complicated and worrisome. You just never know how a woman is going to respond. Often, women will create dating profiles purely as a validation exercise. The inboxes of attractive women fill with praise-ridden emails very quickly. This may be all the attention she needs in her life right now, and she may have absolutely no intention of emailing a single man back.
So don’t try to make predictions or spend too much time worrying about any one given unresponsive girl. Instead, concentrate on making yourself a better man, and tweaking your profile and pictures so that they most accurately reflect who you are, and who you’re looking for.
So if you didn’t get a response to your first email, I always recommend trying once more. You’ll probably be surprised how many women respond to the second email, but not your first. Remember, meeting a new man can be stressful, and emotionally taxing for a woman. She may not be inspired or comfortable enough by just one email.
Statistically, women are often impressed by stick-to-itiveness and persistence. And they understand that in engaging in their pursuit, we are only fulfilling our role as men. As the great Carrie Bradshaw of Sex and the City said, “When a man chases a woman, it’s considered cute, and when a woman chases a man, it’s considered sad.”
There seem to be three frames to adopt when composing your second email.
The famous Warner Brothers cartoon skunk Pepe Le Pew interprets every rejection as a flirtation. In this frame, the man displays an undying devotion to the thrill of the chase and an awareness of the courtship process. Additionally, he expresses his passionate desires in a comical way, and never expresses an ounce of anger towards the woman.
“Oh mademoiselle, are you playing hard to get already? You’re only supposed to play that game after we meet at least once.”
In this frame you take a no nonsense stance and tell her that her failure to respond has caused you to lower your opinion of her.
“You know I sent you an email the other day and I never heard back from you. I have noticed that average women play hard to get. But classy women are assertive and go after what they want without playing games.”
“Ah, I thought sitting down for a cup of coffee with you would have been nice. But you must have other things on your plate right now. Is it not meant to be?”
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