About the Online Dating Book
Did you know that 57% of men who place a profile on Match.com never receive even one single email? Ready to learn how to meet women online?
We’ve done our homework. The study was conducted by Dr. Dan Ariely and Dr. Ali Hortacsu of the University of Chicago in 2004. In fact, these guys discovered lots of interesting things. Some quite remarkable, some quite frightening. And I put them all in my online dating book.
So you’ve tried internet dating before and it didn’t work as well as you thought it would.
You probably did something like this:
- You were feeling bored one night and decided you’d give internet dating a
try because your friend had some luck with it. - You went to a dating website and gave them your hard-earned money.
- You quickly typed out two paragraphs about yourself highlighting your job
and hobbies. - You then proceeded to jostle through some of your digital photographs on
your computer looking for a shot you like. Or, you went to your bathroom
mirror and took a picture of yourself smiling above your sink. - Then you searched for women in your city, made one “form letter” saying how
you’d like to meet them, and you sent it out about 35 times. - Over the next two weeks, maybe one or two wrote back.
- After a few tries like that, you gave up.
As you may have found, that’s not the best way to go about it.
Online Dating
In the early days of the internet (about five years ago) a shameful stigma was associated with internet dating. But now, given the immense popularity of the so called “Web 2.0″ social networking sites (Match.com, Yahoo Personals, FaceBook, MySpace, Friendster, etc.) that stigma is no longer prevalent. A LOT of women now use such sites, and for the first time in history, it is now possible to market yourself to a vast array of potential mates from the comfort of your own home.
In traditional social networking venues (work, bars, clubs) one is constrained by a slue of social pressures and obstacles that do not exist online. An ambitious male can only engage in a handful of approaches in one evening out on the town. But a savvy internet user who has mastered the use of creating attraction via his 2D profile page, can meet literally thousands of women, and could potentially have a date every night.
Most guys have trouble seeing the world from an attractive woman’s perspective.
Do you have any idea what an attractive woman’s email inbox looks like just minutes after she joins a dating website? Well if you want to find out, it’s easy. Just create a profile, put up a hot girls picture, and in five minutes, your inbox will look something like this.
Do any of these guys above strike you as being interesting?
Do you see why women don’t even open half of their emails?
How To Take A Picture
The vast majority of people in the world do not know how to take a picture. Contrary to popular belief, being a photographer is not easy. Because of the recent advances in digital photography, everyone thinks they’re a skilled photographer. But most people are horrible at it. And why?
The reason your profile picture sucks is NOT because you are ugly!
Playboy magazine photographs some of most beautiful women in the world. And yet, they need to take thousands of pictures just to fill ten pages. “But those girls are so hot,” you say. “Can’t the photographer just throw some lingerie on them and snap one shot?”
No he can’t. Photography is a delicate art and professional photographers make a lot of money based on their ability to pose a model and capture a mood.
Here’s a quote from one of Playboy Magazine’s top photographers:
“I can get a good shot out of anyone. Any woman who comes on this bus, there’s a pose, a way of presenting her to the camera where she’s going to look good…”
Accidental Playboy: Caught in the Ultimate Male Fantasy by Leif Ueland
- Learn how to take the right picture. Note: I did not say, “learn how to take your ‘sexiest’, ‘most attractive’, or ‘most stylish’ picture. I said how to take the RIGHT picture — to get the girl YOU want.
- Learn my favorite trick to see which of your pictures draws the most attention.
- Learn about two elusively important parts of your profile — the username and the email subject line. As we saw in the screenshot above, what most men don’t realize is, of the hundreds of email messages she will receive, the first two things she looks at are the username and subject line. And, it is often based on this information alone, that she must decide to open, or delete your email.
- Learn the magic that makes an attractive stanza of dating profile text. Ultimately. She WILL decide to greet you or get rid of you BASED ON WHAT YOU WRITE. Your profile textual content is always the LAST thing she looks at. Even if your email was wonderful and your picture was amazing, if you screw up in your profile text, she will be clicking the delete button.
- Learn the keys to Profile SEO (Search Engine Optimization). When she’s searching for a man, she’ll be typing in certain keywords. Does your profile have these keywords in it? Do you know how to get your profile on the top of her search results page?
- Learn which dating sites to sign up for, and which ones to avoid. Don’t be fooled. There are over a thousand dating websites out there, and most of them are just awful.
- Learn to spot a scam. I have personally talked to Russian girls looking for money, and transvestites looking for straight guys. Be careful, there are sharks in the water.
- Learn how to tell which members are actively searching for love, and which accounts are long dead. Even Match.com and Yahoo Personals have been sued for maintaining inactive profiles.
- Learn the different frames of mind women adopt when they meet a guy online, versus, say, in a nightclub. When you understand the vast psychological differences at play here, you’ll kick yourself for not utlizing this information earlier.
- Learn about the various female archetypes and how to fashion your introduction to make it happen for both of you.
- Learn when to listen to the woman, and when to ignore her. Remember, being a woman is not easy. She is putting both her physical and emotional well-being on the line when she romanticaly interacts with a man. Hence, women will often engage in impudent behaviour or throw up dating roadblocks that you need to be able to spot.
- Learn the four essential parts that every introductory email absolutely MUST contain. If you don’t know what “CTA” stands for, it’s time to learn.
- Learn when to stop emailing and start making real life dates. Possibly because of fear, or lack of confidence, most men tend to send way too many emails to interested woman. If you keep this up, you will just become a curious video game to her.
- Learn the things that you should NEVER talk about, yet most guys always do.
- Learn exactly when you should call her, text message her, and see her in person.
- Learn what you should talk about on the phone to spike her attraction. The vast majority of men are completely oblivious about the art of conversation.
And, of course, there is a 60 day money-back guarantee. So Give it a try!
About The Book:
Click the book above to learn the tricks of the trade.